Healing Burnout

I’m starting to believe (based on experience and intuition) that there are certain times in our life where we are like a vessel. A set of circumstances happens, world or personal events line up and some part of life cracks open.

As you may already know, this year I’ve been working on launching a second hand apparel company, Fold and Fray. Despite any resistance that occasionally comes up, I firmly believe that moving slow is essential.

I’m excited to finally announce what I’ve been working on. I have been creating Fold and Fray, an online shop selling gently-used modern and vintage apparel.

The place I was living,
my metaphorical house
(body, spirit, self, mind, external world)
came down.
Beyond repair.

Working on yourself to heal and do better is like taking inventory. You first work with what you already know. Layers like onions, peeling back one at a time in a non attached, curious, patient way. Because when you meet a layer you didn’t know about, you treat it with kindness, investigate it, figure out the best way to unravel, how to set that part free.

Sometimes what gets treated as self care is actually just basic needs; food, rest, sleep, water, play, love. When basic needs get set aside for the pursuit of achieving a goal or external mission, break down starts to happen.

I always expect healing to be a straight trajectory. But it isn't. Taking two steps forward then one back still means you’re taking steps, even if they’re one at a time or sideways. Although it kind of sucks, deep healing is probably essential if we genuinely want to change, to be better for ourselves, everyone else, and the planet.

And what if a series of things that feel off track are actually happening to get you on track? But because it’s night, you can't see where you’re going… and then maybe you’ll see that you're late just to arrive.